Quick Tips for Wives with Cheating Husbands
•Unless you have photographic memory, start a journal. It should include as much detail as possible and personal thoughts. Thus, log ATM withdrawals, credit card statements, phone bills, excuses, explanations, stories, behavior, etc.
•Make it a habit to pop in unexpectedly at your husband’s workplace, when he’s at the gym or wherever he says he will be. Just keep it casual and make it about forgetting to give him something or some such excuse.
•If you’re not sure, do not confront him. This does not include the times when you ask for a more detailed explanation of his “stories” and “excuses” or when you try to trip him with casual conversation.
•Try to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally to receive the brutal truth (if he is indeed cheating). Make plans, set aside personal funds, and spend time with your family and children without revealing your concerns.
•Most important, act with caution if you decide to use any kind of spyware or app or hire an investigator. Both methods of spying will mean entrusting private and highly personal information to a third party. You never know when these may be used against you, your husband or your children. The spy company may be trustworthy but they can be hacked! In 2016 mSpy was hacked and their data stolen. Some of the spy data had already been released, so this is a real threat and worth serious consideration before doing it.
Men are not that smart and most times they slip up. By being aware of the signs of a cheater, you can further investigate the situation and take action when needed. Although some of these strategies may seem foolish or even silly, they can help you figure out the truth. They all have a recurring theme of throwing the cheater off his game. And this is powerful stuff when cheating is involved. What was once love becomes a game of who can outsmart who. A game of “I spy” and detective work. In the end, the best strategy is to go with your gut and trust your intuition. Don’t ignore it.
Intuition backed by facts is very powerful stuff. Even the most intelligent woman can be fooled when it comes to love. She wants so hard to believe her man that she ignores her intuition and the signs. There is nothing wrong with trusting your partner but he must give you the same respect that you give him. If this isn’t the case, it’s up to you on how you deal with it.
One thing is certain, however. Even if your partner cheats, you are still a strong, powerful and amazing woman who should be loved and respected. Not all cheaters are bad people and not all women who put up with it are dumb. It’s how you feel about yourself and how you pick yourself up after the cheating is discovered that matters the most.
Ultimately, it’s not up to me, your family or your best friend to tell you how to cope when you find out your spouse it cheating. If you’d like to learn how to handle a cheating man or read stories from other women whose men cheated, check out Yes, He Cheated and Yes, I Stayed.