Save Your Failing Marriage – Divorce is Not a Good Option
Once you feel that your relationship with your spouse is going downhill, you need to act fast to straighten the situation. Couples who are going through relationship conflicts are desperately searching for ways to save their failing marriage.
There are a few things that you can do right away. First of all, determine in your heart that you will not give up no matter how hard the struggle gets. With a firm resolve to save your marriage, you can indeed turn the situation around and rebuild your relationship.
Most relationships suffer from a lack of proper communication. There are a number of things vying for your time every single day. Couples hardly get any time to spend alone with each other. Work, kids, house chores, TV and a whole lot of other things rob couples of the intimate moments that they need to spend with each other to make their relationship thrive.
Many couples assume that sitting ‘together’ in front of the TV for two or three hours every evening is spending quality time. But unless there is open heart-to-heart talk between husband and wife, it really cannot be called effective communication.
You and your spouse should have your relationship as top priority in your lives. Although you need to also care about your children, your careers and so many other commitments, you should always value your relationship above all your other commitments in life.
Only that kind of dedication towards nurturing your relationship will ensure that you have a good and stable marriage. So if you have been neglecting your time together, make it a priority to allocate at least a small portion of your time to sit down with your spouse every single day and talk.
Sometimes, when couples start talking they can get into arguments and end up fighting. To avoid this from happening, make a rule that whenever you are sorting out a disagreement, each person will have an opportunity to fully explain their viewpoint without the other interrupting in between. The ‘no interruption’ rule will help you calmly share your point of view without getting into an argument.
Use these sessions to ask your spouse what you can do to make them happier. Focus on their needs more than on yourself. After all they are your life partner. You do not lose by making them happy. In fact by keeping them happy, you are doing yourself a huge favor. So focus on their needs and find out what they expect from you. Once you are committed to making your spouse happy, you will be amazed to find out how little effort you need to put in, in order to accomplish your goal.
Even if your spouse does not reciprocate your gesture initially, do not give up. You make up your mind to make them happy. It will not be long before they start reciprocating your love. Your efforts will pay huge dividends shortly and you can have a great marriage.
Once you learn the principle of putting your spouse first and making them happy, you will be well on your way to saving your marriage. You will then have a wonderful and fulfilling marriage relationship with your life partner.